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“Sheila Warnock’s book Share The Care will lead the national hospice movement to its next step, meeting the needs of the millions of Americans living alone who will need hospice care. Her work is groundbreaking.”

Deborah Duda, author Coming Home
A Practical and Compassionate Guide to Caring for a Dying Loved One.


It takes a lot of stamina, a lot of commitment, a lot of focus, a lot of giving up and starting over again. A lot of ‘I don’t think I can do this? and a lot of ‘oh yes, you can.’… The Share The Care™ group has helped make it easier to give Rick the highest quality of life possible whether he’s on the track of living or on the track of dying.

M. Stevens
The Santa Fe Reporter

“I was still very weak and I could only attend half of the meeting, but it was very powerful and it made me very happy. I felt a greater degree of security, as though I was part of something bigger. I learned how wonderful and compassionate people could be. I didn’t feel like a burden because I realized that people get something valuable for themselves out of helping out.”

R. Stevens
The Santa Fe Reporter

“A key in ‘Share The Care™ ’ is you identify the connection to the person. Kaye herself believes it will work and is willing to let it work. Then there is Bethany and Ada’s belief and their willingness to ask people to be involved. That tactic helps people understand it is not a tragic or hopeless situation. Instead of not knowing how they can help, they hear what jobs are needed, and equally important, have the right to say no.”

Rev. Linda Carlson
Jackson Citizen Patriot

I can now dispute the cliche that blood is thicker than water. I have an extended family that is my family. You are absolutely incredible. I want you all to know that you are my source of strength, my courage. You comfort me, you cry with me, you laugh with me. You have been my medicine. I love you from the bottom of my heart.”

F. Cina
(thanked her group at a fund raiser)

“I got to really know Susan and get a first hand lesson in courage and great humor in the midst of trauma, distress and pain. As for the group I felt women sharing real respect for each other, true sensitivity and instant warm camaraderie.”

B. Delgado

“I learned the ‘facts of life’…that we will all die. Somehow it isn’t as frightening as it was. And that if we ask for help, it’s there. And though we may feel alone, if we have courage to let others in, others will be there.”

M. Schreibman

“I found your book about 2 and a half years ago when a friend was being treated for cancer. I was the coordinator of her Share The Care™ group and the book told me everything I needed to get started. We took care of our friend until she died in April of 1999 and it was a profound experience. During that time, I spoke to several churches in the Madison WI area about Share The Care™ and many more groups have been formed.”

L. Dillenberg



“Too often we “workers” think about what we can’t do. This shows what we can do ––need to do. Warehousing elders in Nursing Homes is very sad. Finding ways to keep people at home safely should be our aim for those who want this.”

Case Manager

“It is wonderful to have a new method of assisting families with caregiving issues. The model is very clear and comprehensive with a lot of room to adjust for individual situations.”

RN, Adult Day Care Center

“The presentation was inspiring, uplifting, full of wonderful ideas, well-timed breaks, well organized presentation. Sheila has a great speaking style – held my interest throughout – so much interesting and useable information.”

Community Outreach Worker

“The personal stories put a real face on this model. All of your examples and stories from the heart to the heart. Because this is about part of life ––several times I was reminded of situations, people in my own community, pieces of this model that already are happening–but the model seems to pull those pieces together and tap into the power of a group, the gifts that each person brings to the group, and how to make caregiving a sustainable and blossoming proposal.”

Activity Director Residential Care Home

“Sheila Warnock’s book Share The Care will lead the national hospice movement to its next step, meeting the needs of the millions of Americans living alone who will need hospice care. Her work is groundbreaking.”

Hospice STC Coordinator, author

“Excellent seminar – superb presenter whose mission in life is CLEAR. Keep doing what you’re doing – bringing this gospel to everyone, everywhere.”

Social worker

“This was a wonderful seminar. The personal stories and videos were wonderful and it makes all the difference in knowing it really works.”

Social Worker in LTC facility

“Very empowering. As we baby boomers age, we will need to take care of each other because this is going to be a serious shortage of health care professional. Plus with recent government budget cuts, agencies aren’t going to be able to provide the same level of service. We will have to depend on volunteers.”


“Excellent workshop. Very real practical information. This type of care can certainly enrich the lives of so many––whose only alternatives may be institutionalization.”

Home Health RN & Case Manager

“I liked having an opportunity to participate in a mock group because ideas and possibilities expanded as the group explored the needs.”

Volunteer Coordinator

“Share The Care can make a difference for me personally. I have a friend living with disability, no family, and I am the caregiver. So I am very excited about establishing a group for her safety and my sanity.”

Hospice worker

“The exercise about working as a team around a specific case was eye-opening in all the multiple needs that can come up and how do you encompass all of that. I found the story buildup and history also important to make the experience complete.”

Client Services Manager, for HIV/AIDS

“Such a wonderful experience in caring for our fellow human beings. Outstanding example of high quality human service.”



“ I just learned about your group and your efforts today, after finally acknowledging to myself, my wife, and a friend or two this weekend that I am in danger of losing my job unless I confront the burnout I am experiencing and make some changes…….
I know that caregiving financial assistance in these days of economic turmoil is pretty nonexistent, so I am grateful to have found your site. Honestly, I usually manage to get an attitude of gratitude together to help get me through, but this week and the past few have found me with my head in the clouds, and those clouds have been very dark. I am glad to have found you and your site.”

Email from a working caregiver

“My Mom needed 24 hour care. I was overwhelmed. I have three small children. My husband works long hours. All of my family lives on the East Coast. I had felt so isolated and alone. I prayed to God to give me the strength to do it all, instead, he had my boss hold a (Share The Care) meeting. When I walked into the room, I knew my prayers were answered, for he had sent me an ‘Army of Angels.’”

Patricia McHale, NM

“When I see the Reevettes (my sister’s Share The Care group,) I will thank them, for their help. I know I will hear in their response: “gift,” “privilege,” “honor.“ One group member told me recently, ‘it’s one of the best things I’ve done with my life.’
“Maybe my sister is living longer because of us. I know we are living better because of her.”

Karin Reeve

Sharing The Care by Carry Marriot, ALS Independence

“The encouragement and the practical suggestions of Share The Care are making the difference between my wife, Betsy, spending her last years in a nursing home and spending her last years in our home, surrounded by people (Team Betsy) who love her.“

Richard Baer, RN, M.Ed., Denver Hospice

“I was all alone. I prayed a lot but I was afraid that nobody would know if something happened to me. Now a wonderful person gives me a ride to church on Sunday, and helps me get to doctor appointments. Somebody calls me on the phone every morning to make sure I am okay. I have so much support now! It is wonderful, and I love this church.”

Long-time member First Presbyterian Church of Forest Hills

“Our church is using STC to coordinate caregiving to assure that we all truly take care of each other, sharing the tasks, with each person contributing exactly what they have time to do and what they most enjoy doing. It’s just amazing the difference it is making and how meaningful it rapidly became to participants. We try to make sure that everyone has what they need-both caregivers and people we reach. It’s an awesome model for churches and we’d love to help spread it to more congregations!”

Melinda Lackey, Elder at First Presbyterian Church of Forest Hills