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C.O.M.E: Caregivers Information Fair


2014 post card


Do Not Wait for A Crisis To Make Major Decisions!
This is the Time and the Season to Prepare for Tomorrow

Information On:
Alzheimer’s Disease, Elder Law, Caregivers Resources, MD House Calls, VA Caregivers Program, Independent Living, Assisted Living, Adult Day/Night Program, Nursing Home placement, Home Sharing, Medicare, Medicare, Managed Long Term Care, Alternative Housing, AARP, Hospice, Respite, Mental Health and much more.

All are Welcomed to Attend
Wednesday April 30, 2014 at 11am to 4pm
177 Dreiser Loop Co-op City
Auditorium A


Download the full Family Caregivers Fair information sheet as a PDF


Once again, Caregivers Outreach Ministry Empowerment Inc. (C.O.M.E.) will present a Caregivers Informational Fair. Riverbay Corporation will host it Wednesday April 30, 2014 from 11 am to 4 PM at 177 Dreiser Loop Auditorium A, in Co-Op City. Set up time will begin at 10AM. Free parking available in the nearby garage. (Garage ticket will be validated) Our mission is to provide, R & R (Resource & Respite), information and resources to family caregivers caring for the elderly with chronic illness, Alzheimer’s disease and other health issues, housing, nursing home, Adult Day Program, Assisted Living, and hospice. In addition, provide resources information to for grandparents.. We are inviting you to take part in this event in support of family caregivers. We are asking for a donation of $50 or more if you wish. Your donation will go towards the refreshments, entertainment, massage, exercise session, door prizes and give-a-ways. Tables will be provided and each organization will be asked to speak about their organization. Please invite caregivers from your program, employees, and other contacts.
Family caregivers sacrifice their needs for the needs of others. Caregivers Outreach Ministry Empowerment wants to continue to increase the awareness about the needs and challenges of family caregivers. We want to take this opportunity to recognize and show appreciation for the extraordinary job that family caregivers are performing. This is an opportunity to say, “Thank you. You are doing a great job. We are here for you. We believe that “Caregivers Need Caring Too!

Diane Cooper RN, GNP, M.Ed.

Download the Caregivers Fair Confirmation Signup and Confirmation form

A Tribute to Sukie Miller

Tribute photo of Suki-Miller-PhD

March 15, 1988 will forever be etched into my memory. It was that cold, windy night when the seed, later to bloom into a comprehensive caregiving model, was planted at an emergency meeting for a friend in the office of Dr. Sukie Miller.

Dr. Miller had strongly urged her patient, Susan Farrow, to reach out past her emotional comfort zone and ask her friends for help. Susan was a divorced, working mom with two teens and a painful bone cancer. To make matters worse she had no family nearby. However, by bringing what was a diverse bunch of friends together for some honest dialogue, we were able to plunge into action the very next morning.

We owe a huge debt to the insight, wisdom, and brilliance of Dr. Miller who truly understood the power of “group.” The 12 of us who attended that meeting went on to prove her right by supporting our friend in every way imaginable until she died nearly four years later. And we managed it without any one getting stuck doing too much. And best of all, we were bonded forever by this challenging yet significant life experience that resulted in us becoming widely known as “Susan’s Funny Family.”

Later, Dr. Miller was the chief cheerleader when Cappy Capossela and I decided to document our systems into a handbook that others could follow to create a “caregiving family” of their own. Dr. Miller offered her guidance and gifted us with the eloquent FORWARD to Share The Care, first published in 1995.

Then, out of the blue, in early 2002 Cappy was stricken with a brain tumor and needed her own Share The Care group. Following Cappy’s death later that year, Dr. Miller again provided her enormous enthusiasm and encouragement for my decision to make Share The Care more widely known by founding our organization. And, as a member of our Board of Advisors for the last 10 years, she was always generous with her suggestions.

Dr. Sukie Miller was a profound influence in my life. I think it was her fearless and optimistic outlook that will be most treasured by me and surely by so many others in different parts of the world whose lives she touched. We will all miss this vivacious, and extraordinary woman with so many far-reaching legacies.


SUKIE MILLER, Ph.D. was an early director of Esalen Institute, was a member of the Board of the Jung Institute of San Francisco and the Board of Medical Quality Assurance, the licensing board for the State of California. She had been a frequent consultant to Cancer and Social Action programs in Brazil.

In 1972 she founded and directed the pioneering Institute for the Study of Humanistic Medicine. One of the first researchers to study the cross cultural dimensions and implications of beliefs of the Afterdeath, her books Finding Hope When a Child Dies and After Death; How People Around the World Map the Journey After Life are published by Simon and Schuster.

Dr. Miller lived for years in Sao Paulo, Brazil where she continued to see clients with chronic and terminal diseases and worked extensively with groups.

CancerCare’s Sixth Annual Healing Hearts Family Bereavement Camp


CancerCare’s Sixth Annual Healing Hearts Family Bereavement Camp

Is scheduled for June 13-15, 2014.

Healing Hearts Family Bereavement Camp:

  • This free event is open to all families with children/teens who have lost a loved one to cancer in the last two years.
  • Friday June 13 – Sunday June 15, 2014
  • The camp is held at a working dude ranch in the beautiful Poconos in Milford, Pennsylvania.
  • Families can register for this event by contacting Claire Grainger, LCSW at 201-301-6811 ( or Kathy Nugent, LCSW at 201-3.1-6809 or (
  • Limited space is available, and on a first-come first-serve basis. Registration is required by 5/1/14.

For seventy years, CancerCare has offered free support services to people with cancer, their loved ones, and the bereaved. Our Healing Hearts Camp has grown each year and offers families a chance to remember their loved one as they heal from their loss with others who truly understand.

It is a wonderful healing experience for the whole family. Space is limited

Click the link below to download/view the flyer as a PDF.

The U.S. Economy Does Not Value Caregivers

This article is from The Atlantic and can be viewed here with images and intended formatting:

Providers of physical and spiritual care are just as indispensable to our society as providers of income. So why don’t we treat them that way?
Anne-Marie Slaughter Jan 9 2014, 9:59 AM ET

Single mother Dee St. Franc works two jobs and raises her 5-year old daughter. (Barbara Ries)

Throughout its history, America has continued to reinvent itself, each time producing a better society for more of us than the one that preceded it. Reconstruction improved on the pre-Civil War republic. The New Deal created a “new America” that was a great improvement on the Gilded Age. The civil rights movement generated legislation guaranteeing the equality promised in the Constitution and the Declaration of Independence.

This constant reinvention is fueled by what I call “the idea that is America”—the principles of liberty, democracy, equality, justice, tolerance, humility, and faith on which our country was founded. As I’ve written, our history is a continual “process of trying to live up to our ideals, falling short, succeeding in some places, and trying again in others.”
The United States has among the highest child poverty rates of any developed economy.

The next period of American renewal cannot come fast enough. The gap between the richest and poorest Americans is growing wider. In fact, the top 10 percent took in more than half of all income in 2012, the highest share since the data series started.

Yet the United States has among the highest child poverty rates of any developed economy. We spend more but get less for our healthcare and education dollars than Canada, the United Kingdom, South Korea, and other nations. We are falling behind on these important measures of human progress in the world—but even more importantly, we are falling behind in terms of our ability to live up to our own values.

Click here to read the full article on the Atlantic…


STC’s Educational Program Makes a Difference






How your support for

Share The Care’s

Educational Program

is making a difference.



Last year Melia, a beautiful 20 year old in Kauai, Hawaii experienced the horrible results (both physical and emotional) of a drug overdose.


Though her family rallied around her in hospital and rehab they were quickly overwhelmed, not only with all the care required, but also with the devastating financial burdens that came with it. They were burning out fast and didn’t know where to turn.


A friend of the family heard about the Share The Care™ Program that was initiated in 2012 through Kauai Hospice following a Share The Care training for 54 professionals and volunteers. Today, they have become known throughout the island as a valuable, viable community resource that offers support to people with all kinds of caregiving challenges.


Melia’s “Funny Family” offers an abundance of love and support. They help with daily activities and care as she is unable to speak or move without assistance.


Melia’s mom is passionate about helping others and shares a video that was shot during her daughter’s initial hospital stay as it illustrates how a drug overdose changed life for Melia and her entire family in just the blink of an eye.


Praying for Melia's Recovery
Praying for Melia’s Recovery

This is a video link and will take you to YouTube to view it.





Please consider a tax-deductible donation of $50, $100 or $1,000 to help us continue to grow and expand our reach and help more caregivers. You can designate your gift in honor of a friend or loved one.




If you prefer to give by check…


   Please make checks payable to ShareTheCaregiving/NCCI, and send to:

ShareTheCaregiving, Inc.

C/o The National Center for Civic Innovation – 6th floor

121 Avenue of the America’s

New York, NY 10013-1590


We welcome your photos and stories for our website. You can also visit and like us on Like us on Facebook and Follow us on Twitter .

THANK YOU your contributions to make Share The Care a caregiving solution for people everywhere.


Happy Holiday to you all.






Sheila Warnock

2013 Online Appeal & News Highlights

December 2013
Just last weekend, prior to starting my Share The Care™ presentation, I asked the audience to raise their hand if they were, had been, or anticipated being a caregiver in the near future. EVERY SINGLE PERSON had a hand up.

Most of them were unaware that nearly one third of our population (65 million people) are serving in a caregiving role and burning out fast. Or that many more caregivers will be needed as our aging Baby Boomer population doubles in size to 71 million by 2030, or that the number of younger people who might serve as caregivers is dwindling. And to make matters worse, that there won’t be enough professionals to care for everyone in need.

As our government continues to seek ways of slicing budget spending, any help that might have been available is fast disappearing. Every day brings another threat that Medicare and Medicaid could be downsized or that other much – needed programs will end.

The caregiving crisis isn’t coming…it is here.

Our work is crystal clear: The Share The Care™ model must be made much more visible and accessible for the people who are new to caregiving and to those struggling without help. We are the original “voice of group caregiving.” However, for us to sustain our efforts to help caregivers through our educational programs and advocacy – WE NEED YOUR SUPPORT.

Are you aware that we are a totally volunteer driven organization? We work on a shoestring budget and with outdated technical equipment so that making advancements takes much longer than it need be. It took years to raise the money to start to rebuild our home website, And we are still seeking funding to finalize the Journey Dashboard that will allow individual Share The Care groups to communicate and operate online. People often ask us “Don’t book sales cover your costs?” Absolutely not. Celebrities and popular authors get handsome royalties, not a guidebook for caregivers.

Every day health professionals and the clergy tell us that the work we are doing is increasingly valuable and of huge social importance. They see, firsthand, the need for us to continue to expand our programs into many more communities.   As one participant from a recent training wrote in his evaluation:

“Such a wonderful experience in caring for our fellow human beings. An outstanding example of

high quality human service .”  

– G. Pestow, RN


The good news is that work has commenced on a totally new home website (due to debut in 2014) that will target our diverse audiences more effectively: caregivers and concerned friends, health professionals, faith communities, and corporations. Combined with the powerful word-of-mouth marketing that you and others can generate, and with your generous financial support, Share The Care can continue to support individual caregivers in need and be part of the solution to the caregiving crisis.

Please consider a tax-deductible donation of $100, $500 or $1,000 to help us grow and expand our reach. If you are part of a Share The Care group, please reflect on your experience, and the value of having a ready-made plan to get up and running to help with your care recipient’s challenges. If we have made a difference in your experience as a caregiver, please forward this appeal to all of your group members and ask them to donate, or consider pooling your funds to make one large donation.


HOW YOU CAN GIVE: You may donate online at:  www.sharethecare.orgor if you prefer by check.   We also invite you to designate your gift in honor of a friend or loved one.

Please make checks payable to ShareTheCaregiving/NCCI, and send to:


ShareTheCaregiving, Inc.

c/o The National Center for Civic Innovation – 6th floor

121 Avenue of the Americas

New York, NY 10013-1590

Please continue to tell others about your experience with the model – your Share The Care group photos and stories are always welcome for our website. These do much to inspire others.   Also, do visit and “LIKE US” on

Like us on Facebook Facebook (Share The Care)

Follow us on Twitter Twitter (ShareTheCareOrg)    

All of us at ShareTheCaregiving wish you and yours A Happy Holiday Season.   With gratitude for your much needed support,   Sheila   Sheila Warnock Founder & President     HOW YOUR DONATIONS CAN HELP:

Donations will go towards the cost of books, and creating, printing, and mailing our other training and educational program materials.  Routinely, when contacted by a health organization or a faith community interested in using the model to help their population, or seeking to host our professional training, we mail them A PACKET of our materials.

  Currently the equipment used for trainings and presentations is over 11 years old.  Since our focus is teaching and presenting (often travelling to do so) updated technology is critical.

2013 Share The Care™ Highlights
Training at the Department of Veterans Affairs in Oahu

56 health professionals attended our training for the Department of Veterans Affairs in Oahu.  Left to right: Joan Foley, Hospice & Palliative Care Coordinator, Sheila, and Kimi Chun (Pegs Legs) STC Outreach Director.
With Herb Weatherwax
a WWII Pearl Harbor Veteran

A Meaningful Award!

CareCrew at The First Presbytarian Church of Forest Hills
The Care Crew at The First Presbyterian Church of Forest Hills
is going strong with 40 active members. sharing the care.

Lady Godiva Awards Sheila with Lauren Bush Lauren Sheila was named The Local East Coast Fall 2012 Lady Godiva Honoree with her is Lauren Bush Lauren, The First National Lady Godiva Honoree and Founder of
The NYC Partnership 4 Family Caregiving Corps
The NYC Partnership 4 Family Caregiving Corps
(Share The Care is one of the founding members)
We will participate in Caregiving Summits at Fordham University.
The STC Stations Program in rural Wisconsin funded by GWAAR   The STC Stations Program in rural Wisconsin funded by GWAAR now has12 STC Stations operational and 3 more in the works. STC Stations provide information and coaching for anyone wanting to start a STC group.
Kuai Hospice

The STC program through Kauai Hospice is helping families island wide. Mary Ann Nordwall on her weekly visit to provide support for Melia.

Manning the table at a church event STC Administrator, Phyllis Waisman  and Office Manager, Betty Himmelsbach

Manning the table at a church event

STC Administrator, Phyllis Waisman and Office Manager, Betty Himmelsbach


Created for us at TEDMED

2013 TEDMED. We won a scholarship to attend this amazing

3-day event at the Kennedy Center in Washington, D.C. and participate in the discussions on the caregiving crisis.

Annual Family Caregivers Awards Luncheon
Family Caregivers Award to Sheila Warnock
Program from a luncheon hosted by Caregivers Outreach Ministry Empowerment (in honor of National Family Caregivers Month) “Community Service Award” presented to Sheila at the event in November